My Secret to Happiness

Many people ask me: “Wow Joni, you always seem so happy – what’s your secret?” Well today I am going to reveal to you all what that secret is: Happiness is a state of mind. It’s not a feeling, something that is completely controlled by our ever-changing environment, but a purposeful way of thinking. Don’t get me wrong, it took me many years to master the art of being happy! It took years of practice, determination, and reshaping my thinking habits. Here are just a few tricks that helped me, and I hope they will help you during your journey as well.

  1. For every negative thought, have 3 positive thoughts to counterbalance it. This has been one of my most helpful practices in positive thinking and not letting a stressful environment get to me. We may think those small negative thoughts in the back of our minds seem harmless, but if we let them build up they will actually affect the outcome of our future! Isn’t that crazy? I don’t want my future to be dictated by my own fears and negativity, do you? By thinking of 3 positive thoughts for every negative one, I stay happy and calm knowing that I am in control of my own thoughts and my own future.
  2. Make your health your first priority. We should never sacrifice our health for our work. Whether it is physical, mental, or emotional- make sure you are putting your wellbeing first! My own health was put to the test in 2008 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  After a mastectomy, many follow up surgeries, and chemotherapy treatments, I gained a new profound sense of appreciation for my own body. This experience heightened my awareness of what’s really important to me and drastically changed my life perspectives. You only have one body and one life to live. For me, my life’s purpose centers around my family and global philanthropy. In order for me to fulfill this purpose, I need to be physically well. When you put your health first in your everyday life, you feel confident and happy knowing that you are doing it for the sake of what really matters to you.
  3. Believe the impossible is possible. Actually, let me rephrase that – you need to know the impossible is possible. There are so many times when I could have let the negativity of others creep into my mind and affect my actions – if I had I would be in a very different place today. An important aspect of being happy is feeling confident in what you believe and who you are, whether others will support you or not. This doesn’t mean being stubborn or close-minded about taking advice from others, but it means not letting fear or negativity stop you from reaching your goals.
  4. Make time for activities that you enjoy. This may sound like an obvious one, but you would be surprised how many people I have talked to who tell me they are feeling stressed and unhappy – and just are not making time for their own relaxation and hobbies! We all lead busy and crazy lives, but try to take 30 minutes a day to do some leisurely reading, running, hiking, cooking, underwater basket-weaving- whatever you find therapeutic and relaxing. For me, this means reading, walking my dog, and spending time with my family. Just this small amount of time set aside for yourself can make an enormous difference in your mental health.  I don’t know about you, but my brain is the key to keeping my business running, so I just tell myself that taking care of my brain is the same thing as taking care of my business!

I hope you find these tips helpful for you in your journey to finding happiness and balance in your life. If there is anything you take away from this post, just remember to keep life as simple as you can, always be rethinking your priorities, and practice positive thinking. If you are a CEO or business owner who feels overwhelmed or stuck, I’d love to chat with you.  Click on this link to schedule a call with me today: Discovery Call. As always, thank you so much for reading!


Blessings and Cheers,

Joni Young